Nalini Mathur – I began dating Pradeep in the 6^th standard, and now, both Pradeep and I, are working professionals still dragging our relationship. As of now; I feel that the relationship has lost its freshness and there is nothing special. He is a very quiet individual, who needs to be pestered for an expression or an emotion. I feel that Pradeep is dying to tell me it is over, but he is refraining from doing so because it would hurt my feelings.

Hey Nalini,

I understand your plight but to tell you the truth the solution is much simpler. The workload from your respective workplaces is obviously building barriers between you and your partner. Those relationships that have lasted have transformed lovers into tortoises; differences are symptoms that indeed bring us together, and being a tortoise is the best way to tackle them. Nalini, you already have a soft interior but for this relationship to last the test of time, you need to develop a guarded exterior. We are sure you have a hard-shelled exterior too, but it is time for you to come out and make your feelings felt.

Speak to Pradeep honestly about the changes that you are experiencing, it is the best way to deal with this relationship problem. After all, you have spent such a long time with him; once you feel confident doing that you will realize that it will, over time, become a habit that gets infused in your daily life. Even fighting about your feelings is better than repressing them; so, do not forget that the playboy bunny can be a quick attraction but the tortoise is the one who takes a relationship through its best moments.

Love,

UC

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