Any mortal being who defies the rules of society, so to speak, is found on the receiving end of scorns and mockery. We are supposed to neatly fit into the Lego moulds created by society; sexuality, money, relationships, power and everything in between is defined. We can hope for change and acceptance but until then all we can expect is tolerance.

Consider Rohan Grover’s query; just as if one were to lay open their diary, of thoughts, at another’s doorstep; he has revealed his secrets, to me.

Rohan Grover:

Hey Urban Cupid, I have been following your posts religiously, and finally have gathered the courage to send across my query. I don’t have money or the parental support for a counselor. I am homosexual. I want to tell my parents about it because there will soon come a time when they will look for a girl for me and all; but I cannot wait till then. After all, they will take some time to settle down. I am a very family person but this secret can shatter everything. I tried initiating the conversation by bringing home a DVD of Brokeback Mountain, I made them watch it but they scolded me for watching such crap. Should I tell them or let them realize it with time?

UC:

Dear Rohan,

The truth remains that for most parents, alternate sexuality is a difficult pill to pop. Our parents are programmed in a particular way; they are accustomed to a particular way of life and that includes the way in which their children’s life will pan out. I understand the apprehension you feel regarding broaching this topic with your parents. To soften their stance to your situation, it may be easier for you to confide in a close family member and seek his or her help. If not, try third personalizing your situation and see how they react. At the end of the day, you are still their child and they love you unconditionally and you should come out clean but take your time. This is your decision to make and don’t let anyone else or any external pressure make you feel unworthy or unacceptable.

Love,

U.C.

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