URBAN CUPID: One little slip
August 17, 2012 @ 00:00 am
The availability of choices is often our undoing. Often, a decision that seems like a choice can result in consequences which can change how we look at ourselves, forever.
We jump into situations in the heat of the moment and when the passion and derision of the moment passes, we are so entangled that we often forget where it all started. We love the excitement of stepping into unchartered territory, we love the unexplored. Tantalizing experiences and cheeky exchanges fuel our consciousness to such an extent that reality seems like a distant notion. Have you ever found yourself in a situation when you are so, clearly, aware of the fact that you are toeing the line that it encourages you to take that one step to the other side. One of my readers, Karan B, faces the same conundrum today.
Dear Urban Cupid,
I have been in a steady relationship for the past three years and I love my girlfriend very much. We are always together and nobody else seems as important as her but I have a serious problem. Whenever I go out without her and meet other girls who are articulate and interesting, I feel extremely excited to receive their attention. I like flirting with other women, I like texting them and keeping in touch with them. Lately, it has been one girl who has caught my attention and I feel such a rush when I speak to her and spend time with her, apart from my girlfriend. I still love my girlfriend and I don’t want to break up, what should I do?
You are being extremely selfish and uncaring towards your girlfriend. Put yourself in her place and think about how you would react if she did the same thing, if you think it wouldn’t affect you then your relationship is over anyway so you should just call it off. When you are in a relationship for a long time, it is natural to indulge in some innocent flirtation or nurse a secret crush. However, it is not natural for someone in a relationship to constantly flirt with other people and be in touch with them around the clock. If there is something that you are missing in your relationship, the lack of which is making you behave this way then have an honest discussion with your girlfriend and make a level headed decision regarding your relationship.
I have absolutely no tolerance for cheaters, so, please, my advice would be to come clean. Let your girlfriend decide whether she can deal with your roving eye or maybe, she’ll be better off without you.
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