URBAN CUPID: Love, Where art thou?
September 06, 2012 @ 00:00 am
Distance doesn't make you grow fonder.
Space is the key virtue in most relationships except in those cases when space becomes such an all encompassing entity that nothing romantic falls into its purview. We are all constantly looking for a significant other who fills up the space we have for spare. I, personally, think it is all so confusing; we want to be with someone we can feel at home with and once we do, we look for space magnifying mechanisms to make ourselves feel detached. Today, our lovelorn reader faces such a problem and I shall try to impart some sagely advice.
Dear Urban Cupid,
I am 21 years old and I am in a relationship with an older man. Okay, so he isn’t all that much older. He is about 28 years old. I have fallen head over heels in love with him. We are quite happy together and enjoy each other’s company. However, he thinks we need more space in the relationship. He doesn’t take me for his office gatherings and feels hesitant to introduce me to his friends. Whenever I feel like we are getting closer emotionally, he puts up a wall and I feel rejected. I know he cares about me but this behavior is really starting to scare me!
Men who are over the age of 25 and under the 30 year old benchmark are, often, hard nuts to crack. While I’m sure that he cares about you, the fact still remains that he is being withholding and reserved with his emotions. There may be several reasons why he is behaving the way he is, it maybe because his past relationships or some other repressed trait. Try to talk to him about it and tell him how his behavior affects you, if he really is as considerate as you say he is I am sure he will explain his stance. After the discussion, if you don’t get a convincing explanation, you need to take a decision on whether you can deal with someone who is not as emotional or expressive. I hope it works out for the best though.
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