Unfortunately, it is something that her fans have to get used to. However, it doesn’t stop anyone from asking her the same question that we’ve all been asking since late last year.
Ever since she was seen cozying up to her ex-boyfriend, Chris Brown, again late last year, fans have all wished for to respond. But now, after months of denying reconciliation rumours, Rihanna has finally confirmed she is back together with her former sweetheart/assaulter. No one ever wanted to see her back with Chris Brown. Not three years after Brown brutally beat Rihanna, threatened to kill her and left her with a black eye and bloodied nose. It seems essentially wrong, especially even after the kind of music that two have been making (for which Rihanna received flak too). Take for instance Rihanna’s single ‘Birthday Cake’, where Chris Brown announces, amid aggressive, explicit language, that he wants to, “Give it to her in the worst way, can’t wait to blow her candles out.”It doesn’t stop there. In fact, Rihanna, in her contribution to Brown’s Turn up the Music, sings, “Turn up the music. Turn me up and take me down.” The song closes with her coy giggle. It clearly seems that love is blind but in this case also makes you numb.
"I decided it was more important for me to be happy," says Rihanna upon being asked whether she is afraid that her public image might get ruined. I read parts of interviews with various magazines and it clearly seems that she is visibly less concerned of the violent act that Brown inflicted on her and more concerned that his heart wasn’t in the right place. He was taking her for granted and the only way to make him realize how much he actually needed her was to cut him loose. That, according to her was the whole point of ‘breaking up’ with him. We take it that the breakup worked. Maybe it snapped Chris Brown into shape and put his heart ‘back into place’. In fact she even seems very happy and confident with the decision and this time apparently, she’s keeping him on a much shorter leash this “He doesn’t have the luxury of f**king up again. That’s just not an option.”
I can’t claim to have a crystal ball, but I do foresee great wailing and gnashing of teeth about Rihanna’s decision and the only argument that seems plausible here is the whole ‘he is a changed man now’. We have lived by and believed that change is the only constant. We live in a society where, even when a man commits a crime, people believe that he can change. If we didn’t believe in the potential for personal change, thousands of therapists, self-help authors, life coaches, marriage counselors and countless other change agents wouldn’t exist. So, while she believes in the ‘new person’, she’s also laying the law down for Chris publicly something. She reveals that Chris would never want to go back to being the person who made such a terrible mistake with her. Ultimately, taking onus for the choices she is making, Rihanna says “I wasn't going to let anybody's opinion get in the way of that. Even if it's a mistake, it's my mistake. After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I'd rather just live my truth and take the backlash. I can handle it."
Ultimately, Rihanna has decided she wants to be with her “true love” and Chris wants to be with her. That’s THEIR decision. So, should we just let them be and believe that it’s a mature decision of a very courageous woman? Or will her decision have bigger repercussions and it’s a just another disaster waiting to happen? Well, for the moment we should just hope for her sake that whatever she thinks, believes and feels…turns out to be true.